- Updated: 24 April 2017
… and I was recently inspired by the voices of five different men who spoke on two different occasions. On Friday morning I attended the graveside service for Dave’s dad at Rose Hills in Whittier. Dave and his two brothers spoke of their dad in terms that expressed a deep sense of gratitude for his life and the practical wisdom and faith that he had brought them up with. His was a faith that was consistent with his life… according to all three of his sons. It was inspiring.
On Saturday morning Lisa and I attended the memorial service of Steve’s dad at Pomerado Christian Church in Poway. Steve and his brother spoke of their dad in terms that expressed a deep sense of appreciation for the life he had lived. I was intrigued by a comment Steve made, that he remembered always feeling safe with his dad. Both sons acknowledged the huge role their dad played in their lives and they both honored him with words that were drawn from deep inside themselves.
The more funerals I attend or officiate, and the more time I spend with the bereaved, the more I’m convinced that grief and gratitude are more like twin siblings than arch rivals. Grief and the deep sadness that it provokes is linked to gratitude and the deep peace that it produces. What a great design by our Heavenly Father… to link two such deeply felt and seemingly opposing responses as is the case with grief and gratitude. We are able to recover from the loss of a loved one in a balanced, and honestly, deeper sense of well-being… thanks be to God.
For His glory,